21 January, 2010

So I’m listening to this someone-whose-name-I-don't-want-to-disclose’s conversation on the phone right now and to be perfectly honest I am amazingly disturbed! This someone is talking to Mr. X who has recently shifted to Australia & doesn’t realize he’s suffering from a cultural shock! Sadly enough this educated middle aged banker probably has no idea what cultural shock is and therefore he likes spending his days by connecting to his roots and calling up his Pakistani friends to complain about the western vulgarity. And honestly Pakistani men are perfect to add fuel to this fire! Instead of telling Mr. X to calm down he’s being suggested that the western kufr is a self fueling cycle! Meaning once you’ve shifted there with your family and once your kids have started to go to their schools they’ll never want to come back to Pakistan! And wives use kids as a weapon against husbands. The truth is that the wives themselves enjoy being in that part of the world and therefore the poor husband s are left with no choice other than being forced to live in that hell hole!

I’m guessing Mr. X must’ve completely agreed to this shameful explanation provided to him because the next thing I heard was; ‘Haan, yeah bewayaan hai na! Un kay tou mazay agaye hain wahan'

I felt extremely bad! A) Because education did no good to Mr. X (proly cause he studied things that’d gain him more coins but not a tad of self-knowledge) B) Because these two men while conversing made it sound like wives and their happiness is the least that matters & it’s against their manly pride to bow down to the likings of their wives, such a shame. May be they were trying to underline the fact that since living abroad for sometime will get one’s wife an abroad nationality and a green card therefore she’ll be more powerful than she is now and hence will act as an equal to his male counterpart (which is exactly how it should be).

All the above irony brings us to these few basic questions: Has slavery really ended? Aren’t women still being treated as slaves and being dictated their own lifestyles? Why do people want to bound each other to stick together? Why can’t people have believe in their selves and not let go of their morals and values wherever they go? Why are decreased choices and imposing will so much liked by a typical Pakistani male? Word for Mr. X: If your principles are so weak that a few years in a western country will rip it apart then I'm sorry but those weren't even worth having! Please understand that the roots of your insecurities lie not in the country you've chosen to live but it's inside your mind! Anyone can obey moral code of conduct living in their own small boxes, what matters is to live out of the box and not let go of your principles!


Blogger The Survivor said...

Lot of issues touched upon.

I would say that if a person is moving abroad for a couple of years he should be prepared for a culture shock and willing to blend in but without compromising his values.

2:29 AM  
Blogger Thinking said...

hmm...it was not the cultural shock he was recovering from....I think he was recovering from the shock of giving WOMAN her rights.

In UK...even now people try to make their daughters and daughters in law to keep within boundries and never want to give them the right of space and education.

They are so conservative and narrow minded that can beat the most conservative areas in Pakistan.

However, once coming out of the boundries....a woman proved herself more rightful for the education and resources UK government are given them.

So...I would pray for all the women and would suggest them to carry on their struggle and hardwork. Inshallah (SWT) they will survive.

Thanks Zainab for such thoughtful post.

8:14 PM  
Blogger sam is here 4 u nly said...

i juss lovd it......

4:26 PM  
Blogger Guru said...

Excellent post on a topic that is new to me, as I haven't really thought of such a situation, but I'm sure such men exist, especially from our society.

9:07 PM  
Anonymous f.z. said...

"If your principles are so weak that a few years in a western country will rip it apart then I'm sorry but those weren't even worth having!"

And haha, loved the comic.

10:44 PM  

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